A good sense of humor is more about sense than humor. William James, the father of Functional Psychology stated it eloquently when he stated, “Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.”
People gravitate toward an appropriate sense of humor. Such a person keeps things in perspective; i.e. few things are so tragic that one couldn’t note something funny or ironic about the situation. However, they aren’t looking for a laugh a minute either.
Most people in our survey placed a sense of humor high on their list of important traits they wanted in a relationship. This was particularly true of couples who had already experienced the vicissitudes of life. When their spouse or significant other took these turns in fortune too seriously, they sucked all hope out of the future, leaving everyone in despair. Those with a sense of humor, saw things differently. The worst was behind them; sunshine was rising on the horizon.