You May Be Right

I was raised in a very conservative environment. We had a small family farm just outside the city limits where hard work and discipline were the order of the day. The political views of my

He’s just a friend . . .

It has been more than a couple of years since I attended high school. The above phrase was code for describing a person who was likeable but not someone for whom you had

Eight Steps to Determine 8 Cows

Sometimes when people see this title, they get a little stressed. Wow. That seems like a lot of work! Why does it have to be so difficult? Well it’s not really that difficult but

The Complexity of Simplicity

I am a college graduate. According to my academic records, I am smarter than my kids think I am. Even though in college I spent a lot of my time with teachers and

Safe Language

Recently, a colleague asked me if I was embarrassed or self-conscious about discussing important relationship topics in terms of cows. Many of my patients have purchased my book, “An Eight-Cow Woman Deserves an

Half-Full or Half-Empty

In our surveys to discover the eight traits or cows necessary to sustain a modern relationship we discovered the Holy Cow or Spiritual Cow was high on most people’s list. However, they had

How to BE in a Relationship

In ancient lore, seekers of truth and wisdom would climb a high mountain to obtain counsel from the reclusive sage dwelling near the top. Today one can receive mountains of advice in seconds

Cutting The Stems Too Short

Today, at the supermarket I walked past a delightful display of pansies for sale. I was immediately transported in my mind to my childhood and my grandmother’s beautiful flower garden. Both my grandmother and