You May Be Right

I was raised in a very conservative environment. We had a small family farm just outside the city limits where hard work and discipline were the order of the day. The political views of my

Two Halves Make a Whole

My oldest daughter, Rachel, was born amazing. She was 2 minutes old when she looked right into my eyes, cooed, and stole my heart. As she grew, she astounded her mother

Kicking the Tires or Your Relationship

At some point in almost any relationship, most people will find occasion to ask the question, “What’s wrong?” I don’t mean the spontaneous reaction to your loved one wincing in pain from

Is Happiness a Pursuit?

Today I was reading Huffington Post, my favorite newspaper . . . I mean magazine . . . OK, I don’t know what to call it but it’s awesome! If you

Where Did My Fairy Godmother Go?

Recently, my daughter married her long-time sweetheart in an intimate and very moving ceremony. The parents of both the bride and groom invited family and friends to a reception afterwards for food, festivities, and

Safe Language

Recently, a colleague asked me if I was embarrassed or self-conscious about discussing important relationship topics in terms of cows. Many of my patients have purchased my book, “An Eight-Cow Woman Deserves an

Half-Full or Half-Empty

In our surveys to discover the eight traits or cows necessary to sustain a modern relationship we discovered the Holy Cow or Spiritual Cow was high on most people’s list. However, they had

How to BE in a Relationship

In ancient lore, seekers of truth and wisdom would climb a high mountain to obtain counsel from the reclusive sage dwelling near the top. Today one can receive mountains of advice in seconds

Give and Shake

A few years ago I attended the funeral of a family member. One of the speakers during the service mentioned that he had recently gone to a restaurant where the salt shaker had

Eight is the New Seven

It seems like it all started with the book “The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People,” by Steven Covey—but in reality the number 7 has been popular in western culture for centuries. Consequently,

Trust Comes Slowly

Nearly every survey or interview we conducted at The Eight-Cow Relationship indicated that trust was foundational in any lasting relationship. The Confidant Cow or Trusted Friend Cow came in at number one on nearly

Young and Bored

I have a very broad taste in music that ranges from Bach to a lot of what kids are listening to these days. Some music takes a while to appreciate. I remember it took