You May Be Right

I was raised in a very conservative environment. We had a small family farm just outside the city limits where hard work and discipline were the order of the day. The political views of my

Actively Listening

Marge: Now the cat needs his medication... Homer: No problem. Marge: ...every morning. Homer: Can do. Marge: And the furnace has been giving off... Homer: Right. Marge: ...a lot of carbon monoxide... Homer:

Kicking the Tires or Your Relationship

At some point in almost any relationship, most people will find occasion to ask the question, “What’s wrong?” I don’t mean the spontaneous reaction to your loved one wincing in pain from

Safe Language

Recently, a colleague asked me if I was embarrassed or self-conscious about discussing important relationship topics in terms of cows. Many of my patients have purchased my book, “An Eight-Cow Woman Deserves an

Trust Comes Slowly

Nearly every survey or interview we conducted at The Eight-Cow Relationship indicated that trust was foundational in any lasting relationship. The Confidant Cow or Trusted Friend Cow came in at number one on nearly

Endure or End?

My son recently graduated from college in biomedical engineering. Having lunch with him is like cozying up to a stack of medical journals and scientific studies. A lot of what he likes to talk