Why Your Relationship Needs Your Wow Cow

In my co-authors’ and my search for the eight cows or necessary traits to sustain a modern relationship, we conducted many surveys and seeming countless interviews. Since we were already enamored with

Two Halves Make a Whole

My oldest daughter, Rachel, was born amazing. She was 2 minutes old when she looked right into my eyes, cooed, and stole my heart. As she grew, she astounded her mother

Kicking the Tires or Your Relationship

At some point in almost any relationship, most people will find occasion to ask the question, “What’s wrong?” I don’t mean the spontaneous reaction to your loved one wincing in pain from

Pinocchio Killed Jiminy Cricket!

Pinocchio killed Jiminy Cricket! What? That’s not the way you heard the story? Well, let me explain. I grew up listening to the iconic Academy Award-winning song, “When You Wish upon a Star.”

He’s just a friend . . .

It has been more than a couple of years since I attended high school. The above phrase was code for describing a person who was likeable but not someone for whom you had

Eight Steps to Determine 8 Cows

Sometimes when people see this title, they get a little stressed. Wow. That seems like a lot of work! Why does it have to be so difficult? Well it’s not really that difficult but

Dealing With Cardboard Cows

Ignore the man behind the curtain . . . Sometimes I wish I didn’t know how movies were made. Things that look big are really small. Things that look old were created yesterday.

The Complexity of Simplicity

I am a college graduate. According to my academic records, I am smarter than my kids think I am. Even though in college I spent a lot of my time with teachers and

Safe Language

Recently, a colleague asked me if I was embarrassed or self-conscious about discussing important relationship topics in terms of cows. Many of my patients have purchased my book, “An Eight-Cow Woman Deserves an

Half-Full or Half-Empty

In our surveys to discover the eight traits or cows necessary to sustain a modern relationship we discovered the Holy Cow or Spiritual Cow was high on most people’s list. However, they had

Give and Shake

A few years ago I attended the funeral of a family member. One of the speakers during the service mentioned that he had recently gone to a restaurant where the salt shaker had

Eight is the New Seven

It seems like it all started with the book “The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People,” by Steven Covey—but in reality the number 7 has been popular in western culture for centuries. Consequently,